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Say you're eating lunch with a friend who's overweight. She's sipping a Diet Coke while dousing her salad in gobs of Ranch dressing, croutons, and shredded cheese. Would you politely offer some tips about how to make her meal lower in calories or would you keep your mouth closed? Offering health and fitness advice is a tricky thing. There's a fine line you can cross over, where you end up hurting her feelings instead of helping her become healthier.
I feel that nothing good ever comes from unsolicited advice. Depending on who it's coming from, the situation, mood, tone, and a lot of other variables, a simple statement can cause some really awkward situations.
Before I started WW again, and this blog, and effectively 'came out' with my diet, it really, really bothered me when people tried to 'help' by making suggestions about what I should eat. I felt judged.
I guess it comes from years of being ashamed of my size. I started my first diet when I was 8. I have been losing weight actively since I was 11. I have never liked what I looked like, been satisfied with my size, or felt comfortable at my weight. It felt quite shameful when family made comments like 'should you eat that?' or 'do you really need that cookie?' on holidays or at special events.
When I was a teen, if the advice came from more slender friends or relatives, I felt like they were rubbing it in, saying that they were better than me, and that I had something to be ashamed of for being chubby.
But right now, it doesn't bother me at all. By being open about my weight loss goals, struggles, and successes, I feel like I AM asking for advice. I find it really helpful when friends or family or my boyfriend point out healthier options on the menu at restaurants. Because I'm firmly entrenched in my 'honeymoon period' of weight loss, I find it encouraging that the people close to me are looking out for my goals and helping me stay on track.
What do you think?